Monday, June 30, 2008

Doomed?

Instead of going to the gym this afternoon to work off the pizza and chocolate cake I ate for dinner last night I went to see the "Sex & The City" movie - again. To add a point or two back to my cool column I must add that the first time I saw it I missed the first 15-20 minutes so I felt the need to see the entire movie from start to finish. After watching every single episode at least 3 times I figured I owed the movie at least that consideration. And myself.

After it was finished... I couldn't help but wonder... Is it possible to write about sex and relationships without sounding like Carrie Bradshaw?

I believe it is! Everyone has their own voice after all and - like snowflakes - no two relationships are exactly alike. Let's just hope they don't all start out white, fluffy and beautiful and end up as black, filthy slush.

I believe I will find a Grand Love and this movie does nothing but support me in continuing that belief. But it's just a movie. I shouldn't take it too seriously, right? Meanwhile, back in non-movieland I have friends that are going through divorces, raising children on their own, calling their relationship status "It's complicated" on social networking sites even though they're married, lowering their standards one notch for each year they get older and still find themselves single, etc. And none of us can afford a closet full of Manolos.

But for some reason - despite all of the failed relationships out there (or attempts to find one) - I seem to think that it's not going to happen to me. I still believe that I'm going to find a great guy and we're going to spend our lives together. Is it my ego? A big fat case of denial? Have I seen too many rom-com movies?

I think the answer is two-fold:

(1) I'm a hopeless romantic. Actually, I'd like to think of is as hopeFULL romantic. And I believe good things come to good people. And good things come to those who wait. Basically, there are too many cliches about good things and good people to ignore them all.

(2) My parents. They're still together and very much in love. They've had some really tough times but they committed to each other and made it through. I can't ask for a better example to aspire to than that.

Now, if you'll excuse me I need to go walk around town in high-heeled shoes that I bought at Payless for $17.99. Did Carrie Bradshaw EVER get blisters?

2 comments:

Ben Pung said...

Grand Loves aren't found, they're made. :)

bunch said...

Very true :)